1. Give Them Your Presence
The rarest and most precious thing that you can give your spouse to improve your relationship is your presence.
We live in a world that is constantly distracted.
We are bombarded with demands on our time and focus so incessantly that we rarely, if ever, take the time to breath into the moment and simple be with another person.
In my experience, this is one of the best ways to improve any relationship.
At the end of the day, turn off everything, your computer, smart phone, TV, tablet, Kindle, EVERYTHING that is distracting you from being here now.
And then share a few moments of presence with your partner.
Talk to each other about your days, your goals, your dreams, your relationship, anything!
Talk to them and be fully present in that conversation. Listen to them, make them feel understood, ask questions with sincere curiosity.
When you inject presence into your relationships, everything changes.
2. Set Goals (And Achieve Them) Together
Another fantastic way to improve your relationship with your partner is to set and achieve goals together.
So often, it’s easy for one person in a relationship to assume the role of the “Go Getter” while the other person feels left behind or like they are simply along for the ride.
This creates a breeding ground for ego, insecurity, unmet expectations and frustration.
Instead, commit to set and achieve massive things TOGETHER.
Set fun and exciting goals that light both of you up.
It doesn’t have to be financial either.
You can set goals around health, adventure, spirituality, and even intimacy and s£x.
Couples who achieve together tend to stay together.
When you are operating as a team, your relationship will improve exponentially.
3. Communicate Honestly
Most men are clueless about how women work.
I know very few men who truly understand the opposite s£x and and the only way to improve things is to communicate honestly and with authenticity.
Oftentimes, men are completely unaware of your emotional states and internal frustrations simply because the s£xes communicate differently.
If you want to improve your relationship with your husband, talk to him often and honestly.
Tell him how you feel. Ask for his input. Always give him confirmation when he makes you feel loved and supported. And try to be understanding when he messes up (because we all do).
If you are a man reading this, the same lessons applies to you as well. It’s easy to bottle up emotions and expect that women just know what you’re thinking. But that’s not how the world operates.
Unless you communicate with your lover, you will lose them.
4. Express Your Love Daily
Never miss an opportunity to express love for your partner.
Each and every day, try to find some small way to show them that you care and that you love them, even when…. actually ESPECIALLY when the two of you have been arguing or fighting.
The more love that you express, I believe, the more love will come back to you.
Write notes, send dirty texts (your husband will love it), kiss them, hug them, love them, and do it every day.
Remember, “Love” is a verb, not just a feeling.
The more you express love the more you can experience love.
5. Love Yourself First
If you want to improve your relationship and create a rock solid marriage, the first place to start is with the person in the mirror.
If you don’t truly love yourself like your life depends on it then how can you ever truly love another person
All great relationships start from a place of love and respect.
And that love and respect must extend to yourself before you can extend it to others.
So if you really want to improve your relationship with your husband, start by improving your relationship with yourself.
Take time to journal, meditate, read, and focus on personal development.
Do the internal work that you need to do to eradicate feelings of insecurity and jealousy.
Because when you love yourself, it’s a lot easier for other people to love you.
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Gbenga Adeboye: 5 things to remember about late legendary comedian
Gbenga Adeboye, late comedian and broadcaster popularly known as ‘Mr Funwontan’, hit stardom before comedy became a big industry.
The ace broadcaster and master of ceremony, died on April 30, 2003, after losing the battle to a kidney-related ailment.
Here are five things we remember about the multi-talented comedian.
HIS NUMEROUS NAMES
At birth, he was known as Elijah Oluwagbemiga Adeboye, but as at the time of his death, it became difficult to keep track of his names.
The names were as a result of his exploits in humour and music.
Some of the names are Funwontan, Alhaji Pastor Oluwo, Abefe, Jengbetiele, Itu baba Ita, Alaye mi Gbengulo.
MAN OF MANY TALENTS
Before his death, he was a versatile entertainer. An orator, comedian, master of ceremony, broadcaster and songwriter.
His programmme on Lagos State Broadcasting Corporation gave him the pseudo-name Funwontan.
Some of his songs did not go the usual ‘words and melody’ way, as he carved his own style of singing.
MENTOR TO MANY TALENTS
During his lifetime and at his death, he was described as a generous and carefree person.
Alaye mi Gbengulo, as he was called by fans, was a mentor to many. Some of those who hold him in high esteem are: Abbey Fagboro, Ereke ni Soobu, Bashiru Adisa better known as Baba Gboin.
Fathia Balogun, Nollywood actress hit limelight when she featured as a dancer in one of his music videos.
In her album titled ‘Omo Majemu’ translated as ‘Convenant Child’, Seun Adeboye, his sister, narrated how he lived before he hit limelight and how Wednesday was special in his life.
According to her, Gbenga Adeboye was born on Wednesday, September 30, 1959; began his education on Wednesday, had his first trip to America on Wednesday, and his first radio programme on a Wednesday.
He died on Wednesday, April 30, 2003 and was buried on Wednesday, May 14, 2003.
EXPLOITS WITH DEATH
Tales of his exploits with death, which he narrated in one of his albums sparked controversies. According to him, he died and had an encounter with God.
Adeboye claimed to have been sent back to the earth by God to complete his unfinished business and was instructed to be buried with his Bible and hymn book.
Gbenga Adeboye: 6 facts about late legendary comedian
Gbenga Adeboye: 6 facts about late legendary comedian
Sometimes, when an all important person dies in the society, a part of that person remains here never to be forgotten. For some people, it is their wealth that lingers on. For others, it is their works and achievement. For someone like Gbenga ‘Funwotan’ Adeboye, it was his laughter, his happiness, the very core of his profession, that he left behind.
Needless to say, when Gbenga Adeboye was alive, his happiness was everyone’s happiness. He made big problems into teeny-weeny jokes so that when these little jokes are laughed over, these challenges and mountain-like distresses disappear all together.
Gbenga Adeboye died in 2003, at the age of 44, and since then, the entertainment industry in Nigeria has been echoing with the sound of his laughter and the rhythm of his care free, happy attitude.
Enough poetry. There is no doubt that many Nigerians are well acquainted with Gbenga Adeboye, the famous master of oduology and humour merchant that was at the forefront of comedy and entertainment in his days.
1. His birth and career
Gbenga Adeboye was born on September 30, 1959, at Ode Omu, Gbongan, Osun state. Nigeria. Although very little is known about his childhood, it is known that the late Gbenga started working as a freelance radio presenter for Radio Lagos where he started a very popular programme which was solely meant for Yoruba audience.
The name of the programme which started in 1981 was Funwontan. Later on, clips from the improvised and mostly impromptu shows were cut out and put in nine albums. Some of them include Orisunkunnu 1 and 2, Ph. D Beetle, Funwontan 1 & 2, Oro lati ori ite mimo 1 & 2, Versatility, Aiyetoro, Controversy, Supremacy and Ijinle.
2. Jack of all trades, master of all
Gbenga Adeboye was, during his lifetime, a man of many talents. His craft covered nearly every aspect of the entertainment industry and he excelled in all of them. He was a comedian (he pioneered stand-up comedy) who could make people’s eyes water with his jokes. He was a musician whose songs of ‘unusual genres’ contained in depth lyrics and melody that caused several people to genuflect.
Even more, Gbenga was an activist, orator, prophet, mimic, humorist, entertainer and master of ceremony. It was quite impressive how he was able to use his talent so well within a short time. Better still, through his words, jokes and actions, Gbenga addressed societal and political ills within the society.
3. Man with ‘a name of many colours’
Although Gbenga was christened Elijah Oluwagbemiga Adeboye, nobody exactly identified him by this one name. After his show hit limelight, the humour merchant began to be endued with so many names, too numerous to count. It was as if for every gig or show he did, he got a new name.
Some of the popular names he was identified by include Funwontan, Alhaji Pastor Oluwo, Abefe, Jengbetiele, Itu baba Ita, Alaye mi Gbengulo, One Man Battalion, Jengbentiele, Apagunpote 1, Abefe, Olayinka, Omo Baba Overseer, Awo itu, Baba Ita, Awo Baba Laisi Abesupinle.
About the last name – Laisi Abesupinle – Gbenga often used it a lot on air. He would dye his hair into white, mimic the voice of an old, age-stricken man, and then, attack the ills of the public (youths and adults) head on. That was quite something, right?
4. Godfather in the Entertainment Industry
Apart from his many achievements, Gbenga Adeboye also impacted the lives of many entertainers. He was not a lone ranger, rather, he embraced many people and made them as great as he was. For one, it is impossible to mention the person of Yinka Ayefele without talking about Adeboye.
Also, the likes of Abbey Fagboro, Ereke ni Soobu, Bashiru Adisa better known as Baba Gboin reverence Alaye Mi Gbengulo for the role he played in their career. Even more, Nollywood actress Fathia Balogun came to the spotlight only after she featured as a dancer in one of his music videos.
5. His Miraculous resurrection and death
Before Gbenga finally died on April 30, 2003, he made certain controversial statements in a recorded tape. He said that God had called him to glory at a point in his life. According to him, the purpose of his death at that time was to be shown several mysterious things by the Divine.
Gbenga claimed that he was later sent back to earth by God because he had to complete an unfinished assignment. As if he knew about his imminent death, the entertainer requested that he be buried with the Bible and a hymn book.
6. ‘Omo Majemu’ (Covenant Child)
Seun Adeboye, sister to the late singer, once dedicated a song to her brother. The song which was titled Omo Majemu set out to narrate the life journey of the master of oduology. To surmise the album, Seun asserted that Gbenga was a covenant child.
Her reason for this was that Gbenga, in a strange twist, practically was a Wednesday man alone. He was born on Wednesday, September 30, 1959; began his education on Wednesday, had his first trip to America on Wednesday, and his first radio programme on a Wednesday. He died on Wednesday, April 30, 2003 and was buried on Wednesday, May 14, 2003.
Holu Michael – a man with the luxury of talents
Holu Michael, a man with the luxury of talents
Michael Olusegun Akinwande with the stage name “Holu Michael” is a multi talented entertainer and minister who derives his inspiration from God.
The spontaneity and naturalness of his talents cannot be overemphasized, this is evident in the love, acceptance and accolades he gets from his fans and well-wishers.
Asides choosing singing and reading as hobbies, he is a lover of Sports and adventures. Of course, all work and no play, makes Jack a dull boy. He out of no time creates time for other hobbies and to unwind.
When being asked about the challenges he faced while trying to discover his talent and putting his talents into display, he responded that his challenges are personal, which has helped his judgement about life and serves as pruning dose.
The challenges of life are never beyond solving for God.
Additionally,in the nearest future, Holu Michael expects to be financially free, to be a positive influence to others, be a good leader and a top notch presenter / Master compairé
His prowess and versatility cuts across acting, singing, comedy and event anchoring. One would wonder how one single person could be this multitalented, if not divine.
According to him, the realization that he could act and sing could be traced back to 1995 when he was in secondary school with the help of Mr. kola Oladejo, his English teacher while event anchoring, comedy and being a presenter was discovered with the help of his friends in the University with encouragement and guidance from Mr. Fatai Dan Wahab (OSRC), Kay Babalola (TRECOM), Pst. Biyi Daniels (RCCG).His first major appearance was on 14th February, 2002, where he showcased himself at a church program (Kings Youth Valentine Program). Subsequently, he metamorphosed to Guild of Orators to seek for more training.
Holu Michael who has been into entertainment & Music Ministry for about three decades explained that he has the ambition of working with the likes of Dunsin Oyekan, OMG, Mike Abdul, Kenny Blaq, Thetimo and Lagbaja in the nearest future.
Born on the 15th of July, Mr Holu Micheal is happily married with children and has never had any glitch juxtaposing his career with family affairs. He concluded by emphasizing that his talents are from God cipf-es.org and he has left no stone unturned in getting developed personally.
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